Hoophole is an innovative group of individuals dedicating themselves to facilitating the kinds of positive, transformative social changes needed to wipe out the twin predators of verbal and physical abuse in our communities.

Think of Hoophole as the first line of defense against domestic violence in its focus on verbal abuse, the seed buried deep within the roots of domestic violence.

Before the broken bones. Before the black eyes. Before the bruising and beatings there is verbal abuse, the slow, corrosive, dehumanizing verbal pinging that ultimately shatters one's dignity, self-worth, and sanity.

Verbal abuse is domestic violence.


But it is the part of domestic violence rarely discussed, rarely covered by the media, rarely understood, and frighteningly evident in nearly all relationships to some degree. 

Verbal abuse is the silent killer. 

Hoophole's programs, classes, workshops, and retreats provide practical tools and powerful interpersonal skill training to allow people to build stronger, more compassionate relationships---the kinds that lasts because they are grounded in genuine dialogue, honor individual dignity and diversity, and rise above the prejudice of closed minds.

Hoophole teaches tolerance, patience, and open expression. To do this often means changing limiting beliefs. It's tough work changing imprinted viewpoints. But the work must be done because, for a country that promotes Christian values, human rights, and compassion for others, the statistics on domestic violence in the United States are appalling.

  • ​Can we create programs that build stronger, more dynamic relationships?

  • Can we learn to communicate with others rather than at them?

  • Can we eliminate the brutality of verbal abuse?

Hoophole is a beacon of hope in the face of such urgent challenges. Think of it as a survival school offering programs framed within one all-powerful mission: creating a space where we can learn to rise above the prejudice of closed minds, examine imprinted beliefs, and attitudes, and change any that prohibit respect for another person's dignity, integrity, and authentic self-expression.

We believe if you can change one mind,

you can change the world.

Everything Hoophole offers focuses on two essential, interconnected life survival dynamics, each a critical building block for successfully establishing a new beginning in how we connect to, communicate with, and respect the dignity and authentic voice of every human being.

::  Dynamics of Self Expression  ::

::  Dynamics of Social Interaction ::


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